Our brother, Thomas J. Bergeson, passed away peacefully in his sleep early Sunday morning, November 2nd, entering the next phase of his life. He was surrounded by his family and loved ones, all who loved him deeply and unconditionally.
Tom was born on April 25th, 1956. He spent his earlier years as a happy, goofy, funny kid, who loved his mom, teased his three younger sisters relentlessly and played Neil Young’s “Old Man,” as loud as his speakers could go…also relentlessly. He loved reading western novels and watching western movies, especially anything with John Wayne.
His life changed dramatically on March 14th, 1977, when at the age of 20, he was involved in an auto-pedestrian accident, leaving him very near death. Tom had to learn how to do many things all over again, including the ability to walk. His life had been a struggle ever since with many physical and mental limitations that could not be overcome in this life.
Through all of Tom’s challenges, he never lost his sense of humor. In fact, Tom’s humor could be described as “unplugged”, at best. The boy had no filter but no one could laugh at his corny, homemade jokes more than himself. If you didn’t laugh at his jokes, you’d certainly laugh at him laughing at his own jokes. He had an infectious laugh and he’d get you one way or the other.
Despite being a little rough around the edges, Tom had a very special place in his heart for children… and man did they love him back. He had them giggling and laughing the entire time he was around. So many little great-nieces and great-nephews will sorely miss their “Uncle Tom”.
Tom was able to work at several jobs throughout his life. The one he loved the most was being a custodian at Sandridge Jr. High for eight years. This job gave Tom a much needed sense of pride and he earned the respect and friendship of the students and faculty alike. He was even named “Employee of the Month”, which made us all very proud. He eventually had to leave that job due to chronic back pain, stemming from that horrible accident he suffered so long ago.
There is a timeless saying that, “There is no greater love than a mother’s love for her child”, and there is no greater example of that than our mom. She has spent dozens of years caring for Tom despite her own health struggles. She’s been Tom’s hero throughout his difficult life and Tom will surely be returning the favor now as he watches over her from heaven.
Tom is survived by his mom, Colleen K. Bergeson of Ogden, Utah; three sisters, Jaye (John) Mecham of Garden City, Utah; Terri (Brad) Freckletonof Kaysville, Utah; and Mia Bergeson of Fountain Valley, California. He is also survived by many cousins, nieces and nephews, their spouses and children, all of who are feeling a great void in their lives right now.
A special thanks to Mike Ware, and his wonderful wife, Janeen, for giving him an open-ended “hall pass” to come to the house several times a day for the past several years, and help our mom care for his “favorite old hippy.” His immeasurable time and loving service provided on behalf of our family has surely earned him a special place in heaven and in our hearts. And for the record, Mike, you are”all caught up” now. We love him beyond what words can express. Thank you, Mike.
As per Tom’s wishes, no funeral will be held. A graveside service will be held at Leavitt’s Aultorest Memorial Park (836-36th Street Ogden, Utah 84403) at 1:00 pm Friday November 7, 2014 for friends and family.
A great friend once said, “Grief is the price we pay to love someone” and we’ll be paying for this one for a very long time to come.
He will be missed and to him we say, in his own immortal words, “Peace out bro”.
We love you Tom.
Arrangements under the direction of Leavitt’s Mortuary